Counter Culture Relationships
Since you’ve clicked on the title of this post, it’s probably been a while since you’ve felt really desired by your husband…sexually. How long has it been? How long has it been since you’ve felt truly wanted?
However long, chances are, it’s been too long. And you’re most likely having a hard time making sense of his aloofness regarding sexuality between you two. Or maybe your man is not aloof – maybe he’s outright resisting sex all together. Ouch. Painful.
Yes, I am talking to you.
The guy who thinks everything is fine.
The guy who can’t seem to understand why his wife isn’t as happy as she should be.
The guy who thinks that she just “nags” a bit. I’m talking to you, the guy who thinks that because you’re a good Dad and because you work a lot to provide income to your family that you’re in a good spot and the coast is clear.
Since you were young, you’ve dreamed about finding your life partner. Your cherished soul mate; your better half. The person who would fill you up and make you happy. The person you could trust to be there “till death do you part”.
On your wedding day, you solidified that you would be free of having to ever feel alone again.
After all, you both made a commitment out of love “till death do you part”.
Remember this:
You’ve taken this vow seriously. You’ve taken it literally. And you’ve taken stock in the idea that you can cling to and hold to this vow as the ultimate safety net in your marriage.
That might have been a mistake, I am sorry to say. The vow was never enough.
Here you are. You’ve found yourself a few years into your marriage and things are not going well.
Maybe it’s two years in. Maybe it’s five years in. Maybe it’s twenty years down the road.
This marriage thing is not what you imagined. You’re not as happy as you thought you should be.
The relationship is rocky and there’s seemingly nothing you can do to make her happy.
Maybe the word divorce gets kicked around from time to time. [Read more…]
