Counter Culture Relationships
Chances are, if you’re interested in reading this blog you’re in a relationship with someone you find to be emotionally unavailable. Great. I’m glad you’re here.
By the end of this blog, I’m fairly certain you’ll have a different perspective on your man.
You’ll probably feel a little more hopeful about the future too. I take it you might need that. Being with any emotionally unavailable man can be a very painful life.
Gentlemen – some of you have been lied to.
Someone told you a while ago that they key to a happy marriage was the mantra, “Happy Wife, Happy Life”.
It might even have been someone you trusted, or looked up to, that gave you this advice. I’ve even heard other marital therapists repeat it, sadly.
The implication with this cliché, and what makes it so insane is this: If I can figure out a way to make my wife happy, then I will be happy.
Since you’ve clicked on the title of this post, it’s probably been a while since you’ve felt really desired by your husband…sexually. How long has it been? How long has it been since you’ve felt truly wanted?
However long, chances are, it’s been too long. And you’re most likely having a hard time making sense of his aloofness regarding sexuality between you two. Or maybe your man is not aloof – maybe he’s outright resisting sex all together. Ouch. Painful.
Yes, I am talking to you.
The guy who thinks everything is fine.
The guy who can’t seem to understand why his wife isn’t as happy as she should be.
The guy who thinks that she just “nags” a bit. I’m talking to you, the guy who thinks that because you’re a good Dad and because you work a lot to provide income to your family that you’re in a good spot and the coast is clear.
Since you were young, you’ve dreamed about finding your life partner. Your cherished soul mate; your better half. The person who would fill you up and make you happy. The person you could trust to be there “till death do you part”.
On your wedding day, you solidified that you would be free of having to ever feel alone again.
After all, you both made a commitment out of love “till death do you part”.
Remember this:
You’ve taken this vow seriously. You’ve taken it literally. And you’ve taken stock in the idea that you can cling to and hold to this vow as the ultimate safety net in your marriage.
That might have been a mistake, I am sorry to say. The vow was never enough.
