Being a successful husband, a successful father, or just a modern man in the 21st century can be a difficult task. As men living in a post-feminist era, many of us have been taught confusing and conflicting messages about what it is to be a successful man, and how to go about accomplishing this task. We’re told things like we don’t share our feelings enough. Or that we’re too angry. Or that we need to be home more often to help out. Many men are feeling frustrated with the bombardment of messages that can make us feel like we’re doing a bad job. These messages sometimes come from frustrated wives, co-workers, or from our parents or siblings. Worst of all, sometimes our own children can be frustrated.
Some men have good friends they can confide in, and more commonly, most men have friends that are more “social friends” or regarded as “fun friends”. However, statistically speaking, very few men have close interpersonal relationships where they experience being truly authentic with other like-minded guys. I know this was certainly true for the majority of my own life.
Having a safe place to talk about not only life’s challenges, but life’s successes is something we all need. Many of the guys I work with come to therapy to work out things such as:
- Work-life Balance Issues
- Communicating Effectively
- Marriage help for New Dad’s
- Relationship Crisis – How to Save Your Marriage
- Struggles with Parenting or Co-Parenting
- Marital Sexual Difficulties
- Should I Stay or Should I Go? Divorce Counseling
- Spirituality Issues – Topics of Faith
- Addiction / Substance Abuse / Alcoholism & Co-Dependency
I would be honored and privileged to hear more of your story. If you think we might be a good fit for each other, please shoot me an email. I’d love to meet you and see how we could get things headed in a good direction for you.
Quentin Hafner, Licensed Therapist
Orange County, CA