HELLO, I'M QUENTIN HAFNER, LMFT

Expert solutions to your most pressing relationship concerns. 

GUIDING PEOPLE TO PEACE AND HAPPINESS...


HI THERE, MY NAME IS QUENTIN AND I’M REALLY GLAD YOU LANDED ON MY SITE.

I consider being a therapist an absolute privilege, and I feel so honored to work with, and guide my clients as they reach their goals and dreams. My story of becoming a therapist began with my own personal development journey, so I am fondly aware with how special this relationship can be.  

Prior to working as a therapist I spent many years in the corporate world before I realized how much I enjoyed helping people – and made the decision to pursue being a therapist & coach full time. It was the best decision I’ve ever made.  

I believe that true, lasting change happens in the context of trusting relationship with another person, and that is what I hope to gain with all my clients.

I have spent thousands of hours working with clients as a therapist and coach and many more thousands of hours learning, reading, and studying. Since completing my Master’s Degree in Clinical Psychology, I have gone on to teach at a local University and I have continued my education journey through doctoral level trainings, workshops, and supervision in the most cutting edge theories of couples therapy and personal development.  

I am a lover of learning and hold onto the truism that I can only take my clients as far as I’ve gone myself. That is why I continually remain in my own personal development work too; to continue growing for myself and my clients.  

When I’m not working, I love spending time with my family and being active with friends. I love practicing Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, surfing, camping, and getting lost trail running in the most incredible nature preserves in Orange County.  

I think you can learn a lot about someone by their favorite magazines, so I thought I would share mine with you…

IF YOU'RE READY TO TRY A NEW PATH, LET'S CONNECT.

WORKING WITH FAMILIES & MARRIED COUPLES


I’M PASSIONATE ABOUT HELPING PEOPLE TRANSFORM THEIR RELATIONSHIPS SO THEY LEAVE THE LEGACIES THEY DEEPLY DESIRE.  

As a licensed couples therapist, I take pride in guiding couples to feel massively more content, have greater levels of peace, and generally feel much more satisfied to be together then ever before.  

We achieve this working together by understanding the very subtle but extremely important, and often overlooked, nuances in relationships that contribute to feeling frustrated, disconnected, or sometimes, downright ready to leave the relationship.  

More than ever before, couples need a trusted plan to navigate their relationships in our modern age. So much has changed regarding relationships, yet so much of the advice we receive from well meaning people, including many marriage counselors, doesn't work.

From navigating shifting gender roles, to changing spousal expectations, to how we share parenting responsibilities, many couples feel lost on “how to do it”.  

If you are in a relationship and finding yourself struggling, you’re in the right place. The focus of my career has been helping people make meaningful and lasting connections with their partners that are sustainable for the long-term. Hang with me for a little while and I can help you get there too.

IF YOU'RE A WIFE...

and you feel like you’re not as important as you used to be… that you don’t matter as much… that you’ve been neglected and sidelined and now you’re frustrated…. you’ve landed in the right place too.


IF YOU'RE A HUSABND....

and you feel like there’s nothing you can do to please your wife… that she’s always frustrated with you… and you’re always disappointing her… Hang with me for a little while and I can help you change all of that.

After working with thousands of people, I’ve become certain about what works and what doesn’t when it comes to happy and sustainable marriages. I’ve had the honor of helping thousands of clients trust me and allow me to join them in fixing what wasn't working. I am humbly grateful for them allowing me into their lives.  

I simply want to share with you what I’ve had the privilege of learning. I want to show you a proven plan.

PLEASE EXPLORE ALL OF YOUR OPTIONS BEFORE DECIDING TO END YOUR RELATIONSHIP.  

If you’re currently trying to solve a seemingly unresolvable dilemma in your relationship, simply click on the SCHEDULE A CONSULTATION button on this site and let’s start a conversation about how we can make the positive changes you're looking for. I would be honored to meet you, and would like to hear your story.

IF YOUR MARRIAGE IS STUCK IN A RUT, TOGETHER, WE CAN CHANGE THAT.

WORKING WITH MEN & HELPING HUSBANDS


BEING A SUCCESSFUL HUSBAND, FATHER, OR PARTNER IN THE 21ST CENTURY CAN BE A DIFFICULT TASK.  

As men, many of us have been taught confusing and conflicting messages about what it is to be a successful man, husband, and father.  

We’re told things like we don’t share our feelings enough and that we’re not “doing it right” as husbands. Or that we don’t know how to be dad’s the “right way”. We’re told that we should “do it this way”, or that we should “do it that way”.  

Many men feel frustrated with the bombardment of messages that can make us feel like we’re doing a bad job, or somehow that we’re defective as husbands and dad’s. These messages often times come from frustrated wives, and from society in general.

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This is why I wrote Black Belt Husband. It’s a marriage book specifically for men that are looking for a proven plan to be a successful husband in the 21st century.  

IF YOU’RE LOOKING FOR PRACTICAL AND MEASURABLE SOLUTIONS TO HELP SOLVE YOUR PROBLEMS, YOU’VE COME TO THE RIGHT PLACE.  

I believe most men don’t need “a therapist”, but could benefit greatly from having a mentor or a coach in their lives. Most us aren’t fortunate enough to have really great male role-models in our lives and so we’re left to figure things out for ourselves. I know that was true for me and I’m so thankful to the great male mentors in my life.  

I approach my work with men with a belief that there isn’t anything wrong with you and that you’re not defective. But you might be able to benefit from simply learning a few new skills to maximize the quality off your life. That’s it.  

WITH 75% OF THE THERAPISTS IN CALIFORNIA BEING FEMALE, I LIKE TO CONSIDER MYSELF A “GUY’S-GUY” WHO GET’S IT.  


I promise I won’t try to feminize you or try to limit your masculinity. I am the biggest advocate for men holding onto their power, strength and their masculine selves, but learning how to harness their natural abilities in a way that promotes your greatest well-being.  

Having a place to sort through some of life's most difficult areas is something we could all benefit from. Many of the guys I work with are sorting things out such as:  

  • Work-Life Balance Issues
  • Relationship Crisis Geared Toward Saving Your Marriage
  • Struggles with Parenting or Co-Parenting
  • Infidelity – Rebuilding after an Affair
  • Spirituality Issues – Topics of Faith
  • Contemplating Divorce? Should I Stay, Or Should I Go
  • Mid-life Crisis’s & Life Transitions
  • Addiction or Issues Around Alcoholism

IF YOU ARE READY TO GET CLARITY, I'D LOVE TO CHAT WITH YOU. 

FAQ


My Office Address: 

My office is located near John Wayne Airport at: 

4100 Campus Drive #200 Newport Beach, CA 92660

About Insurance:

 I am an out-of-network provider with insurarnce companies. 

 I can provide you with a medical receipt for you to submit to your insurance company for reimbrsement. 

Fees: 

My fees vary depending on the needs of my clients. 

Once I understand your goals, I can provide you with a quote for us working together.

YOU DON'T HAVE TO STAY FRUSTRATED AND DISCONTENT. LET'S CONNECT AND I'LL GIVE YOU A PLAN.