The famous author, Stephen Covey, coined this awesome definition of leadership:
“Your ability to communicate to others their worth and potential so clearly that they are inspired to see it in themselves.”
What a powerful definition to aspire to as a leader.
You see, if you’re anything like me, you want to be a great leader. I think this is something God has placed inside all of us.
And this is especially true inside our families, as husbands and fathers…where leadership has the greatest impact.
True leadership isn’t about being the boss, or being in charge, or getting your way. It’s about setting the tone for your relationship, and creating an environment where people thrive. If you’re wondering whether you’re a leader in your marriage, how would your wife and kids rate ….
“Your ability to communicate to others their worth and potential so clearly that they are inspired to see it in themselves.”
Here’s the truth: being a leader in marriage isn’t easy, and it requires you to fight the hardest battle there is—the battle with yourself.
· Battle your ego
· Battle your pride
· Battle your insecurities
· Battle your fears
· Battle your mind
· Battle your identity
· Battle your beliefs
The Ultimate Leadership Test:
Are People Becoming Bigger, or Smaller around you?
To make sure your leadership focuses on helping people in your family become more, and bigger, and better versions of themselves, here are 3 questions you can ask yourself:
1. “Do I affirm her strengths and abilities as often as I criticize her shortcomings?
2. “How often do I create opportunities for her to rise to her full potential, even at the expense of my own wants and desires?”
3. “Does she feel more confident, valued, and capable of greater potential after interacting with me?”
The Kicker:
Here’s the kicker: when you lead by affirming worth and potential, you’re going to be the biggest beneficiary. By creating an environment where she feels seen, valued, and inspired, she’s naturally going to respond with more affection, appreciation, and support toward you.
This is a time-tested universal principle.
It’s a win-win situation: as you invest in her, she becomes more motivated to invest in you. Your efforts come full circle, if you can trust in the process long enough to reap the rewards.
If you’re ready to up-level you any part of your life, please contact me so we can start a conversation.
