Quentin Hafner

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The Root Cause of All Conflict And How to Get Unstuck For Good

At the roots of all interpersonal conflict, are unmet core human needs.  Whether we’re talking about conflict inside the workplace, or we’re talking about conflict at home, it’s always about unmet needs. Unhealthy conflict is exhausting, draining, and will take the life out of anything good.  I’ve been there, and maybe you have too!?  And there’s …

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4 Essential Skills for Compromising in Relationships

Compromising wasn’t something I ever learned in school.  How about you?  Anyway, I had to learn compromising skills the hard way….mostly through difficult and challenging moments in relationships that didn’t end well. Ideally, we’d grow up in families where compromising skills are role-modeled in a healthy way, but few of us are so lucky; we …

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What you Need to Know About the COVID-19 Trauma & How it Impacts Marriage

If you’re married, then might have experienced a challenging time over the last few months with the advancement of COVID-19.  For many people, the COVID-19 experience has become a traumatic event triggering heightened emotional stress responses, i.e., flight & flight.  Whenever couples are experiencing fight & flight stress responses in a relationship, it can feel …

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